Thursday, April 7, 2011

Advice On Getting Your Boyfriend Back

Although there is plenty advice available on the question of how to get your boyfriend back most of it really is not worth very much. Begging him to take you back really does not strike me as a good way of going about things.



Some of the advice you will hear pertains to employing mind games and tactics to provoke him to jealousy and sometimes it will work but basing a relationship on games and jealousy is never a good idea. You might be so desperate that you don't really care but that type of relationship is really not likely to last. The problems of the past will resurface and you will simply end up back where you are - apart.



Apologizing can carry a lot of weight and especially so if the break up was caused through something you did. That is not to suggest that you are to blame for the way things turned out and that he has no responsibility but chances are you must have done some things wrong. An apology cannot hurt.



Another benefit of acknowledging your mistakes is that it will give you a chance to make changes. That way if you and your guy do get back together you won't just repeat the same mistakes all over again and continue to cause each other pain.



Apologizing alone is a very beneficial thing to do even if it does not have the desired result of a reunion between the two of you. At the very least you will have learned what you should not do in your next relationship. By figuring out your mistakes and making the changes you will find this is a win-win situation.



When you make contact for the purpose of giving your apology keep it short and sweet. Let him know that you understand your mistakes and that you are genuinely sorry for any pain that you caused him.



Do not resort to crying and begging and do not go into it with grand expectations of him taking you back right on the spot. It could be that he won't. He may need time to mull it all over and make up his mind about whether or not he wants to try again even with the new and more mature version of you.



If he doesn't immediately take you back, give him space. Don't contact him for a while. Let him have time to think things over and decide for himself what he wants to do. If you pester him you will most likely just make the situation worse.



During this period, don't sit by the phone and wait for his call. Live your life. Do something to make you feel really good about yourself, and making yourself look really hot can't hurt either. Spend time with friends. Do not just sit around and worry, that will make time seem to go much more slowly.



By simply following this advice you will stand a much better chance at reconciliation than you would if you employ games and tricks to provoke him to jealousy. It's your choice - good luck!



If you would like more information on getting back together with your ex check out the Magic of Making Up System.

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